If you are like most people in America who find themselves single, your dating life is not quite what you dreamed it would be like. However, you can increase the number of first dates you go on, as well as increase the likelihood that those first dates will lead to second and third dates. Wanna know how? Well, read on, and find out how you, too, can double your dating life!

If you are not meeting the type of people you would like to build a relationship with, or if you are simply not meeting people at all, the first thing you must do is get out of the rut! Spending more time in the same old places and with the same old people is not going to get you anywhere. You might get an extra date or two, but if they come from the same place as others, they just might not be any different from the ones which came before. So break out of the same old routine and find some new places to meet people.  Or try new things:  Like online dating, or maybe even an adult dating atmosphere.

But where else can you meet people these days? The first thing to do is really sit down and think about where your interests lie. Are you passionate about food? Do you love to create delicious gourmet meals? Perhaps you should sign up for a cooking class at your local community college!

Don’t dismiss these ideas simply because you already know how to cook.  You are going for the opportunity to meet people, not to learn what you already know. And, if you don’t know how to cook, perhaps you’ll find someone who does!

Do you love animals, and want to meet someone who feels the same way? How about spending a couple of afternoons a week volunteering at the local animal shelter? Not only will the time be rewarding personally, you will be surrounded by people who also share this interest with you.  I personally know of one person who did this exact thing, and it worked out very well.

Get creative, and get out there! Many dance clubs and music halls offer dancing lessons on weeknights when business is slow. This is a terrific opportunity to meet other singles in a low-pressure atmosphere because you are guaranteed to be asked to dance. And dancing is a perfect ice breaker.

Are you a single mother or single father? Believe it or not, there are ways for you to meet other single parents. Become active in your local Parent Teacher Association, especially if you are a single father. Not only will you be building quality time with your child and helping his or her school better meet their needs, you also have a chance to find someone who shares similar interests and understands the demands of single parenthood.

A word of caution—many dating sites advise you to be aloof, even to partially ignore your date when you are out together. If you follow this advice, be careful! Many women and men find this sort of thing downright rude. Remember, good manners never go out of style.

With all these things in mind, get out of the house and jump into your new world of dating!

Have fun and enjoy your renewed social life!

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Sometimes in relationships lies seem to be way too easy to come by.  Part of the reason why lies are so rampant in relationships is because, for one reason or another, many people fear being honest.  This leads them to lies and deceit.  When you are in a relationship and you have a fear of being honest then you really need to take time to get to the heart of your fear, so you can make a good, healthy relationships for yourself.

What? You’ve never heard of this before.  Well, it’s true! People fear being honest for many reasons.  People fear being honest because they do not want to hurt their partner.  They fear honesty because they do not want to disappoint their partner.  They fear honesty because of what may happen to them. The fear of honesty can be both selfish and selfless.  If you’re not doing anything wrong, you should have nothing to fear.

What usually happens to perpetuate the fear of being honest is that a person does so something wrong that would be devastating to their relationship if their partner found out.  Maybe this person got really drunk one night and cheated.  After that happens, the line of thought goes something like this until the fear of being honest is fully engaged:

- What harm is there is not telling her if I am never going to do it again.
- I didn’t mean to cheat.  I was drunk.  I know I’ll never do it again.
- I cheated and if he/she finds out she will leave me.
- She would not get mad or depressed if I don’t tell her.
- Instead I will be able to stay with her and we will never have to face the trauma of what I have done.

It’s not hard to see that the person is trying to rationalize in their head why they should lie.  They are so wrapped up in thinking about lying that they do not even think about the repercussions of the lie verses the repercussions of their original situation.
 
Lack of honesty can only lead to more problems.  For example, in the scenario above, a lie about cheating found out is almost as bad as the cheating itself. This person may not have ruined their relationship when they originally cheated, but by lying about it they really have now almost definitely ruined their relationship.

The fear of being honest is something you have to overcome if you ever want to have a good relationship.  Once a person catches their partner in a lie, it takes a lot of time and energy to ever be able to regain that trust. That makes the lie almost as bad as anything you could have lied about in the first place.
 
So, in the end a fear of honesty is only building yourself up for constant failure in relationships.  A fear of honesty is one you have to overcome if love is to ever be in your future.
 
Honesty is really the ONLY option if a relationship is to succeed!
 

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A person can sabotage a relationship in so many ways.  Sometimes it’s done consciously, but more often it is an unconscious act on our part.

Of course, most people want their relationships to work or they wouldn’t go out looking for one!  When the relationship does not work they wonder why it failed.

Sometimes the reason a relationship failed is that we unconsciously sabotaged it.

Sabotaging a relationship is something people do everyday.  We do it for many different reasons.  Sometimes we do it as a way of protecting ourselves; sometimes it is related to how we were raised or something that happened in a past relationship.  Whatever the reason, there seems to be ten fatal flaws people make that sabotage their relationships:

1. Choosing a partner based on the wrong criteria. If you always have a set criteria you look for in a mate, maybe you are cheating yourself.  You should not judge a person by what they have or don’t have, but rather by who they are.

2. Letting the relationship progress too fast.  Women and men get caught up in emotions and tend to let things move too quickly.  By becoming too vulnerable too quickly you are opening the door for trouble.  It is better to connect emotionally before letting things go too far.

3. Getting attached before getting acquainted.  As emotional beings, we tend to let our hearts rule our head. When you become too emotionally attached before getting to know someone, you are putting yourself at risk of ending up heart broken or being stuck in a bad relationship.

4. Being too clingy.  If you abandon all your friends and all your other commitments so you can be with your new soul mate all the time then you are making a major mistake.  Becoming too clingy will definitely drive a person away.

5. Creating expectations.  One thing both parties need to understand is that when they get into a relationship they need to accept the person for who they are, and not always be trying to change them. If they weren’t a millionaire when you met them, don’t expect him to become one when you are together.

6. Allowing problems to build up.  Many times people are content to ignore problems, thinking they will go away.  When you do this you are only building yourself up for a major outburst.  It is always better to handle problems directly and as soon as possible so they do not grow into something that can’t be fixed.

7. Being fake.  You can not try to be someone you are not just to attract a mate.  Once you start off lying your relationship will forever be scarred.

8. Lies.  Lies of any kind are sure relationship killers. You have to be honest about everything from the start.

9. Old fashioned.  Some men appreciate a woman with old-fashioned values, but many men still prefer a women who can be independent and who thinks for herself.  Most men don’t want a clingy, ditzy woman nor do they want one.  They prefer an intellectual woman who is her own person. 

10.Expecting this person to be your soul mate.  Many single people are on the quest to find that one true love they are meant to be with forever.  Many times in this quest a person passes up possibilities who are wonderful and could be the one, if only they got to know them.  Having this idea of a soul mate can be quite damaging.  It places unreal expectations and strain on a relationship.

I was once asked “How do I know for sure if he is my one and only?”  Well, the answer is, you really don’t.  However, if he or she makes you happy, then take it day by day. If you continue to be happy, then, that’s all that counts.

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OK, so you’ve been dating for a while, and now you think you’re in love.  But, how do you know if it’s love, or just an infatuation that will burn itself out.  It could be just some physical chemistry that will be short lived, but hopefully not.

Here are a few clues that might help:

The first question to ask yourself, if you’re thinking, How do I know if I am in love? Would I have the strength to let him or her go if I knew it was the best thing for my partner?

In other words, if you were to find yourself embarking on a career that would take you to a place that your partner has expressed disinterest in, would you be strong enough to end the relationship, knowing that if you they would just tag along anyway and try to be happy?

One such circumstance, in our current economy, might be a military career transfer to Alaska (or Seattle for that matter), when your partner suffers from SADD (where they get depressed because there’s not enough sunlight).

You can’t do much about your military career, but if you would be willing to end the relationship so they could find someone who would enjoy a hot sunny climate, then you may well be in love.

It’s highly likely that if you suggested an end to the relationship in this circumstance, and your partner also loves you, another solution would present itself and you would not have to break up.

Another question to ask yourself, if you’re wondering, How do I know if I am in love?Would I be willing to wait a longer time to have sex if I’m told it’s not the right time yet.  If your answer is Heck no, I need my sex life, then it’s not love.

Another question that would be very important in your determination of whether you are in love is Would I stop feeling the same way about this handsome man if he got fat or bald? Would I still want to be with this voluptuous, beautiful woman if she gained fifty pounds and turned gray?

The fact is that those things have a better than even chance of occurring in a long-term relationship. If you’re NOT able to truthfully say that no matter what they look like on the outside, you’ll still love them for what’s on the inside, then you’re not in love, and in certainly doesn’t bode well for your future together.

If you’e thinking How do I know if I am in love? ask yourself what dreams of yours if any you’d be willing to give up, or set aside temporarily to help your partner fulfill hers or his? If the answer is none, you’re not only not in love, but you might want to take another look at yourself and figure out how you became so self-centered!

All relationships need compromise, and when the relationship develops to a stronger love, there is even more compromise expected.  In the end though, it should make you happy when you make someone else happy, and both parties should be making the compromises.  This way, everyone will be happy in love!

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As a person gets a little older, their views change a lot.  There may be more interest in Astrology when looking for new midlife love, or more or less concern about religion or ethnic background.  However, most people haven’t considered the one easy to do concept of Feng Shui.

If you’ve heard of the ancient east Asian concept called Feng Shui, you know what I’m talking about. Feng Shui says that how you arrange your furniture and other household or office objects affects the smoothness or bumpiness of your life. So, why not try a few easy techniques to attract the right energy into your home.

Feng Shui teaches that one of the rituals to attract a new love partner is as easy as buying household objects in pairs. If you have two symmetrical chairs around your home fireplace, or two identical ottomans, or perhaps two of the same type of picture frame on your desk, you will bring Couples energy to your life.

The southwest corner of your home is considered by Feng Shui experts to be the love corner of your home.

It makes sense then, that you will then enhance your attraction of a new love partner by putting your two symmetrical items in that corner of your home.

NOTE:  Prior to taking this step, you MUST clean and organize that corner. And here’s why:

Putting your couple’s items in your southwest home corner when it’s messy or dirty, according to Feng Shui, may be an easy ritual to attract a new love partner, but the relationship will be disorganized as well.

The photos, paintings and other pictures that you choose for your home can attract a new love partner as well, and choosing the right ones is an easy ritual. 

• Pictures of love can draw love to you. It’s far better, for example, to have a painting of children holding hands or hugging, or dogs playing happily together, then to hang angry or even abstract art on your walls.
• Should you yearn for other types of portraits, paintings or photos, then go ahead and put them in one part of your home and save the love pictures for your bedroom or special place that you frequent.

Burn incense or candles in your home. Aromatherapy has proven not only to stir feelings of love, but also feeling of well-being, inner peace and happiness. What better way to open your heart to a new love partner than to be happy and show it? People like to be around happy people; and who are at peace and proud of themselves.

Pay attention to color in your life also. Red and pink candles are supposed to be the candles of love (naturally). Some even suggest you pray for love in front of the candles!  Unless you’re opposed to prayer, it can’t hurt and it just might attract a new midlife love partner!

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