Blueprint for a Successful First Date
Good job! You landed the date. Let’s go over a few things that will help make the date a success.
On a first date, you can discover what kind of woman you have on your hands. Don’t set a date for some distracting event like bowling or a concert. They don’t offer you a chance to get to know the girl. Try to make your dates boring. I like coffee dates because they aren’t as stressful as a traditional dinner date. When you take a girl out to get coffee you can just get up and leave if you have to instead of waiting around for a bill like on a dinner date.
Your goal for the first date is just to get to know the woman. This is probably the most critical thing I can tell you about first dates. Yes, she’s really hot, but cool your jets. Get to know the woman first before you decide if she’s worth your energy. Find out what the woman’s personality is like. Don’t try to memorize a bunch of annoying questions to ask the girl. They are really obvious and only make you seem like a pathetic loser. Just have a normal conversation with the girl. The most critical thing is to only ask her questions if you actually care about what her response is. You are on the date to get to know her, not entertain her or kill time.
Even to this day I still feel excited before I go on a first date. Getting to know a new girl and understanding her point of view can be as exciting as opening a gift. First dates are typically pretty easy, so don’t sweat this too much.
Here’s another tip for first dates. Try not to get your expectations up too high. You just want to figure out if this girl is worth taking out on more serious dates. Don’t go in with expectations of bringing her back to your place that night or making out in the parking lot. Most girls decide ahead of time that they will only go so far on a first date. So, just try to learn what kind of woman she is.
At the end of the date hug her and give her a peck on her cheek. This is an outstanding way to end a first date if things go well. This will make you look pretty smooth and charming. This makes her understand that you are a good catch. A good man that isn’t just trying to hook up.
Most importantly, don’t forget to enjoy yourself. Get the girl to laugh. She is most likely a little nervous about the date too. You will both feel a lot better after enjoying a good laugh. Make up nonsensical stories about your life. This will show her that you are both confident and that you don’t take life too seriously at the same time. Tell the girl something so off the wall that she knows you’re just messing with her like “My mom drove me over here. She driving around the block waiting to pick me up when we finish up here. I can’t leave her hanging too long, so I really have to get going.”
Take this information to heart to make sure your next date is a success. Keep in mind that your goal is to screen her to see if she’s worth more of your time. So don’t put too much pressure on the situation.
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