OK, so you’ve been dating for a while, and now you think you’re in love.  But, how do you know if it’s love, or just an infatuation that will burn itself out.  It could be just some physical chemistry that will be short lived, but hopefully not.

Here are a few clues that might help:

The first question to ask yourself, if you’re thinking, How do I know if I am in love? Would I have the strength to let him or her go if I knew it was the best thing for my partner?

In other words, if you were to find yourself embarking on a career that would take you to a place that your partner has expressed disinterest in, would you be strong enough to end the relationship, knowing that if you they would just tag along anyway and try to be happy?

One such circumstance, in our current economy, might be a military career transfer to Alaska (or Seattle for that matter), when your partner suffers from SADD (where they get depressed because there’s not enough sunlight).

You can’t do much about your military career, but if you would be willing to end the relationship so they could find someone who would enjoy a hot sunny climate, then you may well be in love.

It’s highly likely that if you suggested an end to the relationship in this circumstance, and your partner also loves you, another solution would present itself and you would not have to break up.

Another question to ask yourself, if you’re wondering, How do I know if I am in love?Would I be willing to wait a longer time to have sex if I’m told it’s not the right time yet.  If your answer is Heck no, I need my sex life, then it’s not love.

Another question that would be very important in your determination of whether you are in love is Would I stop feeling the same way about this handsome man if he got fat or bald? Would I still want to be with this voluptuous, beautiful woman if she gained fifty pounds and turned gray?

The fact is that those things have a better than even chance of occurring in a long-term relationship. If you’re NOT able to truthfully say that no matter what they look like on the outside, you’ll still love them for what’s on the inside, then you’re not in love, and in certainly doesn’t bode well for your future together.

If you’e thinking How do I know if I am in love? ask yourself what dreams of yours if any you’d be willing to give up, or set aside temporarily to help your partner fulfill hers or his? If the answer is none, you’re not only not in love, but you might want to take another look at yourself and figure out how you became so self-centered!

All relationships need compromise, and when the relationship develops to a stronger love, there is even more compromise expected.  In the end though, it should make you happy when you make someone else happy, and both parties should be making the compromises.  This way, everyone will be happy in love!

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